Exit strategies

[tinyjo]

I've been thinking about it recently and it's occured to me that one of my major mechanisms for dealing with bad, difficult or uncomfortable situations is to come up with an exit strategy. That's not to say that I won't be intending to try and improve the situation or turn it around, although of course you can't always. It just helps me to feel more in control and less stressed to know that if I really need to, I can step back, get away, whatever. It takes the pressure off. I think that's one of the reasons I find myself so uncomfortable with the idea of myself as a parent - there's no exit strategy you can really plan there.

I should do a real life update soon, really. I'll get to it, I promise.

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BWAH HAH HAH

[t--m--i.livejournal.com]

iirc the current research suggests that having kids makes people less happy in general due to the tremendous stress. (The good news was that people in general were happiest at around age 70, which gives us all something to look forward to!).

My own observation is that older parents do better (again in general). More experience, more money, more practice at planning and juggling stuff, more time to watch other people have kids and see what works and what doesn't. That said, I know some people who had kids in their early twenties and coped fine, but they were all old-heads-on-young-shoulders types (rather like your good self in fact, tinyjo!).