I'm not sure I understand this. I would agree that you can remain close friends after you stop loving someone and have a platonic bond and also that you can, in that state, decide to continue to live together in order to bring up shared children but I think perhaps we're using the word love for slightly different concepts here.
I think a lot of people expect that they will always be "in love" with their marriage partners, in the sense of gooshy feelings and melting when they kiss you and so on. People sometimes talk about these feelings with words like "romance" and "passion" as well. It then comes as a surprise to them when, a few years down the road when they have kids and are always tired and stressed, they realize they don't feel that way anymore, or only feel that way rarely.
Of course, if they maintain a close, caring, and respectful relationship (that is, they continue to treat one another with love, even if they don't have those "in love" feelings), they will likely find that those romantic feelings wax and wane over time.
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Date: July 13th, 2007 05:52 pm (UTC)From:I think a lot of people expect that they will always be "in love" with their marriage partners, in the sense of gooshy feelings and melting when they kiss you and so on. People sometimes talk about these feelings with words like "romance" and "passion" as well. It then comes as a surprise to them when, a few years down the road when they have kids and are always tired and stressed, they realize they don't feel that way anymore, or only feel that way rarely.
Of course, if they maintain a close, caring, and respectful relationship (that is, they continue to treat one another with love, even if they don't have those "in love" feelings), they will likely find that those romantic feelings wax and wane over time.