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Film report
October 5th, 2001 09:43 amWe went to see Josie and the Pussycats last night. I thought it was a fantastic film although I don't think the others really agreed with me. It was silly and fun and had gorgeous girls and good music - what more could you ask. I think the brainwashing has worked - I want to buy the video!
Was having a chat with Alex afterwards. I don't understand him often. He seems to be feeling depressed because he feels that he's not maintaining his obligations properly. He acts like all his previous relationships were transactions in which he took but didn't give and so he owes the other person in some way. To me, that seems to be missing the point - a relationship with someone is a free exchange, not a transaction. Each person is involved because they want to be (except possibly the child in the parent/child relationship) and because of what they're getting *now* not in order to demand eternal service. Maybe I'm missing the point (I probably am), maybe its a language thing. It just doesn't seem to me that it's a terrible crime to fall out of touch with someone or something you should feel desparatly guilty about. If you want to call them then do so, but don't call them if you don't want to. If they want to talk to you then they'll call you and it's not your fault if they generally call first. Oh well.
Was having a chat with Alex afterwards. I don't understand him often. He seems to be feeling depressed because he feels that he's not maintaining his obligations properly. He acts like all his previous relationships were transactions in which he took but didn't give and so he owes the other person in some way. To me, that seems to be missing the point - a relationship with someone is a free exchange, not a transaction. Each person is involved because they want to be (except possibly the child in the parent/child relationship) and because of what they're getting *now* not in order to demand eternal service. Maybe I'm missing the point (I probably am), maybe its a language thing. It just doesn't seem to me that it's a terrible crime to fall out of touch with someone or something you should feel desparatly guilty about. If you want to call them then do so, but don't call them if you don't want to. If they want to talk to you then they'll call you and it's not your fault if they generally call first. Oh well.
